Overcoming the “Impossibles” of Seasonal Depression

Seasonal depression is one of the realest things I have experienced in life, especially as a young adult. At first, I thought I was going crazy, because every time the days got darker, the wind got colder, and the light outside seemed a lot dimmer, I started feeling so many negative emotions. It was like my smile got dimmer, my world started spinning, and my mind got more and more negative, and I felt stuck. As I began therapy and became more vulnerable, I learned that seasonal depression is normal, and it is okay to feel this way no matter what season it is. For some people seasonal depression comes in the summer and they start drinking more and hanging out more because it is the only way they know how to cope without a constant schedule or being around the people they care about the most every day. However, for most it occurs during the colder seasons. This is a time when most do not come out of their house and feel lonely, not heard, like they cannot get a break from their everyday life. Seasonal depression is contagious and not being able to have healthy coping mechanisms can change the cycle from it being seasonal to permanent and more consistent.

As women we constantly feel that we have to be present and to show up especially if we have children, a significant other, or demanding family members and friends, but we also have to remember that it is important to pour into our own cup, so we can brighten the days that feel impossible and lonely. During these times of the year, I try to keep the most consistent schedule I can, but also during these times I give myself more grace. I give myself grace to feel, to be more emotional, and to also mess up. There are times I write and listen to music. I get dressed up and treat myself, whether that is a good dinner, going to my favorite store and getting items that I love, going to the movies or if it is turning off my phone and giving myself some downtime to sleep and cater to myself. During my seasonal depression, I look at it as a moment to rebuild myself and learn more about why I struggle and how I can grow as an individual. Some days are rougher than others but overtime I have become grateful for every moment that has shaped me into the woman I am slowly becoming. Changing my perspective of seasonal depression has helped me overcome the stereotype behind the “impossibles” of overcoming seasonal depression.

Seasonal depression is manageable, but it is also an aspect of life we should not ignore. Find outlets that help you cope with your everyday life. You are not crazy. You are not going insane. You are not being overdramatic. You are not mad or angry. You just need a break. You need some warmth and some sunshine, and it is okay to take time for yourself to provide the warmth and light you need in your life when it is a little more cold and bitter. Show yourself some love, because you’re beautiful during your rough times, you are enough during the times you cannot be fully present, and you will be okay when life seems impossible to maneuver. Always remember you are never alone, you just need comfort, and it is okay to be uncomfortable in this season of uncomfort, because when you get back on your feet you will be everything you imagined and more. Do not let seasonal depression win, because you are the prize.